Out beyond ideas of wrong-doing and right-doing, there is a field. I’ll meet you there.
We come into our relationships with high hopes. Too often, forces from outside our partnership – job stress, parenting pressures, ‘baggage’ from our past – get our relationship stuck in a bad cycle. We start to feel attacked, unappreciated, or alone.
I am certified in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), the couples' therapy that is most proven to help couples build closeness and understanding. Together, we will understand what gets in the way of you hearing each other. We will discover and practice new ways of being a great partner and of getting your needs met.
As we practice these new ways of relating in our sessions, you will start to feel the way you relate at home shift. As these new modes of teamwork strengthen through use, you will find you can work through even those difficult topics that have felt ‘too hot to touch’ for years.
Couples conflict is a sign that you have not given up hope of realizing your dreams with your partner. With improved communication, you can share your frustrations and needs safely. As you better understand each other, your partnership will strengthen. You can re-awaken the dreams that drew you to each other, and move into your future together with confidence.
I have helped many couples in the Oakland Berkeley area work through a wide range of issues, including sex and intimacy, affairs, partner depression, money problems, anger management, pornography use, drug and alcohol addiction, parenting, divorce, and stepfamily adjustment.
To talk more about how we could work together in couple’s counseling, give me a call.
I look forward to talking with you.